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We have been married since almost 16 years. We have a 11 year old son. Now, my husband is getting chance to go to UK for 1 years. Problem is I cannot go with him, since son is study in senior class. But he is getting angry, since there is …

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We have been married since almost 16 years. We have a 11 year old son. Now, my husband is getting chance to go to UK for 1 years. Problem is I cannot go with him, since son is study in senior class. But he is getting angry, since there is chance that 1 year will strech to 5 years.
I am very confused, sons study is important, but husband does not want to live alone, as he had never managed house work, and he should do everything himself there.
What to do?

4 Answers

  1. Seeker "Purpose of Education is to replace an empty mind with an Open one"

    I am seriously confused here!
    He wants you to come so that you can do housework for him? Even if it means sacrificing his own son’s future?
    If i were in your place, I would have had no confusion at all. I would NOT have even considered going to UK.

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  2. Explainer Being cool is being your own self, not doing something that someone else is telling you to do.

    This is really selfish Man!
    He wants a house maid to go with him, not a family. This is pretty apparent.
    The logical solution here is that he learns basic household stuff,Β goes off to UK, analyzes the situation.

    Then he can call you and your son, once he has sorted out an accommodation & schooling (since both are related in the UK)

    You should not even think about uprooting yourself and son before your husband’s tenure is finalized.

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  3. Seeker A Dentist and a Mom

    I can understand your problem here, You have always been at home, dependent on him financially.
    Now you feel it is your duty to ‘mother’ him because he is ‘helpless’
    Dear, at this point all I can say is think about your son. Disrupting his life, even for one year, will set him back.
    Not to mention the huge cost of shifting him there, and then giving admission fee in India again, when you guys come back.

    And I am sure no Indian company will bear the cost of family, if the project is only for one year!

    I understand he is only earning member of family, he will surely understand how illogical a decision this will be.

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  4. Relationship Advisor Relationship Advisor/ Matrimonial Consultant

    Dear, Please talk to your husband about how much disruption this move will bring, to all your lives.
    Not just money, this move will require a lot of preparation, lot of documentation, lot of hassle from his side only.
    Is he ready to put this much effort or a move that might not last even a year?
    It is just impractical.
    I am sure he will understand if you talk calmly and logically.

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