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We are a newly married couple, just one month before. It was an arranged marriage. Whenever I seek to get intimate with my husband, he runs away from me or asks me to leave. I don’t understand why does he do this? What can I do to make him find me attractive?
There is a new age, there are new people, so you should talk to your husband with love at night while sleeping and come on sex related topic. Talk to your husband regarding sex and know about his wishes because nowadays men like men, that is, there is a simple concept that your husband can be gay. Look, it is a strange thing to feel bad, but the truth can also be because men never run away from women in the matter of sex, but this is your case. If you are a newly married couple then the problems are for a lifetime. Also, ask about the gender interest, your problem will be solved.
This had happened with me too.
I got married to a man who I had met only once before marraige, that too with whole family.
I was not comfortable in physical relation , and I was lucky to have married a man who did not force me.
We got togther properly after almost months. When I started loving him, I initiated myself.
Have patience .
As you are saying that you have arranged marriage, then it clearly shows that your husband does not take interest on you because the reason behind this can be very big like he may not like you. He may have married you under the pressure of family, so you should humbly ask and discuss his wish with him in private. If he already has a girlfriend and he loves her then it is okay for you to separate because you are newly married, your body will be meet with his body but if you your mind will not meet then you have no future.
This is not a new thing as this problem comes with many newly married couples. In many cases girls are not ready for romance but in your case your husband is not ready. Your husband not having interest on you that’s why he runs away from you. Whenever you go to him for romance, you may not go well prepared, maybe your husband likes hygiene body, so when even if you go to him, then use some good perfume and wear a good attractive nightie so that he attracts towards you. Later you will not need romance, he will himself be drawn to you
Please talk dear, communication is the only key to a successful marriage. Put it out clearly in front of him. You cannot and you should not assume anything in a relationship.
Just SPEAK