We are a newly married couple. Initially everything was ok. However, within 2-3 months of getting married, I am noticing huge changes in my wife. She is very controlling and dominating at home. It started with small things, like putting the plate in sink immediately after eating (I like to sit at place for a while after eating). Or insisting that I change clothes immediately after a reach home (she wouldn’t even let me have a glass of water). Now, she has started monitoring how long I talk with anyone, be it my office or mother or even a friend! It’s getting very suffocating. How do I ask her to let me be, without sounding too rude?
Hope this helps
I guess first of all you should just have a good conversation with her and make her understand things, sometimes we tend to forget about things and just do whatever we feel like without understanding anything, and sometimes when you don’t speak up they tend to take you for granted. So it’s your responsibility to stand up for yourself, without fighting, but with confidence. Still if things are going out from your hand then let an elder person step in and handle it.
You are still in your very early stage of marriage. It’s better to talk about anything that can create rift between you two. Trust me. the longer you tolerate any such behaviour, the more controlling your partner will get. Not because she’s a narsicisst of anything, just because she doesn’t know that this is effecting you. Tell her that you don’t feel good when she tries to control you. You both will have to work on the situation, and sooner the better.
you should talk to her, not think bad things. maybe it is her nature only. you both can talk and adjust. Love is adjustment for your partner, wife or girl friend. If you cannot do that, then you will always face problem in martial life.