We a newly married couple. We were in love for 3 years before getting married. She was always close to her mother, and this never bothered me before. However, since we got married 6 months back, here have been many fights between me and my wife regarding this. She spends all the free time talking to her family. We are both working and we are not allowed to use mobiles at office. So she says that evening is the only time she gets for her mother and sister. But what about me? Am I not family? How do I deal with this situation without sounding petty?
You are not being petty, but you need to have patience. Your wife has recently shifted to a new home, and it seems she has not yet adjusted to the new environment.
Why don’t you also join her in these daily conversations? If she feels that you are getting involved in her family, she would start feeling more accepted. Or you can ask her family to visit you and let her see all of you interacting comfortably. Things will change for better soon!
Your story is so similar to mine, my wife had the same behavior for 1st year in marriage. What i did helped me alot i think you should try the same.
you make her feel accepted and tell her she can make changes in this house according to her preference, start involving her in small details of your place and your life. As soon as she starts to feel that she belongs here she will start getting involved and your problem will be solved!