Please help! I suspect my husband is gay. We got married 4 years back, we have had physcial relationship 2 times in this whole time. Both times he was completely drunk back from his office party. Now, i have been suspecting an affair since very long, because he goes on a lot of “office trips” and usually stays in office very late.
Last night he came home a little drunk and went to sleep. I took courage and opened his phone with his finger print lock. Now, there we no messages with anyone , not even chats except official ones. But when i opened browser, i saw an adult video with 3 – 4 males going on with each other! I tried to check history, but it was cleared away. I am not sure, did he open this link by mistake, or is he really gay. what should i do???
I really really would advice you to confront him with when he wakes up, and tell him what you saw. Ask him what it means and how is this going to impact your future.
This and only this can resolve anything, making assumptions will only result in misery.
It definitely seems as if he is homosexual. But what surprises me that he was able to hide his identity for 4 years from you! You really need to communicate with him properly asap. I would go a step further and say that he actually needs to talk to a therapist. Hiding his nature for so long is just not healthy for him, and is extremely unfair to you. He needs to get his life sorted immediately. Homo, bi, asexual- whatever he is, he needs to accept it. Please encourage him to open up and reach out.
i think you are reading too much into this incident. as others said, just talk and clarify, if he comes out, then you can sit together and decide on what decision to take.