Kiran and Ravi had met quite a few times before saying yes to their parents to an ‘arranged marriage’. They were, infact, calling it a ‘love-arranged partnership’.
They were both very well educated corporate professionals, with MBA’s from top colleges. Alas, their vast education lacked the knowledge of relationships. Like most other couples, it hadn’t occurred to them that sustaining a healthy relationship after marriage would require constant efforts, understanding, and continuous growth.
Saurabh Goswami shares a few tips that can help new couples navigate the ups and downs of married life.
First and foremost, communication is the cornerstone of any relationship.
Never undermine the importance of open and honest dialogue; of creating a safe space for expressing each others thoughts and emotions.
How to do this? Actively listen to each other, seeking to understand rather than judge.
Cultivate shared interests.
Try new hobbies together, discover those that you both enjoyed, whether it is cooking together, going on adventures, or simply curling up on the couch to watch your favorite shows. These shared experiences not only bring them closer, but also provide an opportunity for creating lasting memories.
Maintaining a sense of individuality within the relationship is equally important.
Kiran was into reading and creative crafts, while Ravi was into sports and outdoor activities. They decided to divide the weekends into two phase – a ‘together’ time and an ‘individual’ time. They would spend the Saturdays out pursuing their own individual hobbies. Sundays were for each other. They encouraged each other’s dreams, and celebrated achievements together.
Significance of small gestures of love and appreciation.
Kiran started keeping little notes in Ravi’s tiffin everyday. No matter how hard Ravi’s day was, these notes made him feel loved. Ravi started making morning cuppa ‘chai’ for them, before the maid came. These small things brought them together like no big gesture would. Simple acts are usually the ones that keep the romance alive and reminds them of their love.
Embrace the concept of forgiveness
Understand that nobody is perfect, including yourself. When mistakes are made, it’s your choice to keep stewing in anger or forgive and let go of resentment. There will be fights, there will be misunderstandings, there are going to be massive disagreements. Communicating and forgiving will help you move forward, heal wounds, and rebuild trust.
Quite opposite to what Bollywood wants us to believe, love is NOT a fairytale, it’s a beautiful and evolving partnership that requires continuous effort.
Remember, sustaining a healthy relationship after marriage is not about perfection, but about embracing imperfections and growing together, hand in hand.
Founder, Ultra Rich Match
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