My wedding has been fixed. My prospective husband calls me often to arrange secret meetings and to put pressure on me to date him. What should I to do?
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I don’t think there is anything wrong in wanting to meet the person you are going to spend your life with. Arranged marriages anyways don’t offer much chance of knowing the person beforehand.
But your comfort is important. You can meet him in public places, with a friend with you if required. Some casual catch ups would give you a chance to know who you are marrying, and would improve your relationship, I believe.
Peace✌️
Do what your are comfortable with also if he is forcing to get sexual with him then you should discuss it with your parents but first of all not all secret meeting means getting intimate. You should first clear things with him that what kind of secret meeting is he looking for.
If your husband pushes you into a relationship before to marriage, this shows his desire for a physical relationship, and if he is unable to manage his emotions, it is not advisable to choose him as your husband in the future. He needs to respect your beliefs and opinions. Think twice about your relationship since if he forced you before marriage, what will he do afterward.
I would advice you to ask him to talk to your parent’s whenever he wants to meet you.
Secret meetings make no sense in an arranged marriage set-up. Your parents should remain involved in all proceedings leading till marriage.
there is no reason for him to meet you behind their back.