My husband is just so angry all the time. He get up, shout for food, water, clothes, anything. Then shouts at me before going to office to tell me to do house work properly. I do everything, no maid at all. Then he come home late in night, and never like what I cook, even if i cook his fav. Then he say house is not clean, his clothes is not clean, what I do all day, just sit and watch TV?
He never hit me, never. or say bad words to me. But he is angry. He was not like this, just 5- 6 months ago. Suddenly he changed. Can I help him?
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If he was not like this before, then something must have happened with him recently. i guess some problem in office, maybe you suggest to go out for a relaxing picnic in the weekend, and try to talk him soothingly. If he is facing some office stress, then he needs to understand that it is causing problem with you. he has to resolve those problems by himself. But do talk calmly.
This usually happens when a person is hurt or he is stressed or he is into someone else, just give him sometime don’t react and if it still continues to be the same then talk to him. And by talk, I mean to have a good conversation about what he wants.
I agree with others, something is bothering him. If you have good relations with his mother or siblings , i think you should to them about this. He needs to talk to someone and release him stress, which he is taking out on you. This is not correct. You are not some punchbag, even if doesn’t hit you, this still counts as abuse.
You should not be treated like a punch-bag, no matter what he is going through. Please do not defend him and his behaviour. It is important that he knows he is hurting you mentally. It is even more important that you yourself understand that this is not acceptable, not as a wife, not even as a human being. Whatever his issues are, he has to understand and resolve himself. Hope your situation gets better soon.
Its like my own story of life, but mine is permanent. You should not tolerate this if you have a choice dear. You should tell him to be polite and respectful towards you, no matter what,. If you won’t nip this in bus, this will keep on increasing, and you will not know when you have become a doormat,