This is something quite common I think, but I dont know how to deal. My husband gives me just enough money for houeshold kharcha. Not even 100 rs more. If I have to buy anything else, i have to ask him and he decides if I should buy it. He earns good, he buys expensive dresses for me also sometime. But they are never my choice. And if I dont wear them, he dont buy anything for me for a long time. What should i do?
I can’t even imagine what you must be going through. unfortunately this is a scenario found in many Indian homes, people are literate, but not educated. For some reason being a male, or producing a male is the only requisite for respect.
Until and unless every female going through this starts fighting back, there is no hope for future. I know I am talking through my hat here, i have literally no idea about your actual struggles, but one step at a time. We do have a few in house counselors, why don;t you talk to them directly.
Dear, please connect with me. I have messaged you my number, connect whenever you can.
I have helped many women in almost similar situations, the situations where they have seemingly lost all strength to fight for their own self. It’s a difficult situation you are in, and it will get worse if you don’t do anything.
Please do see how this determined lady went on to overcome her struggles.
I would suggest that you start creating your own income somehow. do something online, start stitching, cooking tiffin, or even start making videos. Who knows you will become a famous influencer. But it is important to assert your independence, only then this harassment will stop.