My elder brother had a love marraige, but accepted & arranged by both parents. They work together in same office. Now, I hear our mother keeps telling my bhabhi’s mother to ask when they are have a child. They both take turns every other day to talk about this to my bhabhi only! When brother asks something, mom changes the topic and starts about how she is feeling very sad because bhabhi does not listen to her at all. I can see my brother getting anxious. Should I tell him about what both the mothers are doing? This whole thing is causing very bad vibes in house.
I think you should talk to your brother, but very gently and carefully. This should not create a rift between your family. I can undertand your concern. Sometimes, elders try to control every family decision, this is deep in our society, but respecting elders is also important.
I was in same boat! My mil would fill my husband’s ears, even though we had love marriage. But she showed colors in front of me only, and nobody else.
I finally had to get a collar recorder and recorded for many days and finally show to husband. He believed me, but he could not say anything to his mother, because she will get angry. So he would supoort me afterwards. I still have to hear her, but at least my husband understands me.
You should tell him so that he doesn’t think his wife is lying.
Talk to your brother about it first and then decide what has to be done. Things might turn in some other way so patiently work on it.
It is always good to be open. I am facing some misunderstanding with my best friend. Because I believed that she said bad things about me. But it was not true. And now she does not talk to me anymore. I would have to face them if someone had told me the truth. Please tell him, so that he will not minsunderstand his wife.