Me and my wife have been married since 7 years. We have twin boys, they are 5 years old now. I have been hearing rumors of her getting close to her gym instructor since many months. I finally confronted her last week, and she clearly and calmly accepted. We have not talked to each other since that conversation. She has not asked for divorce yet. I, myself am of two minds. I do not want to live with her, but we have 2 kids to think about. What legal course of action do you suggest?
There is always a choice but it must be rational and should create a win-win. Best legal recourse I would suggest here is mediation under alternative dispute resolution. I believe there is still scope of restitution and with mediation steps differences and doubts can be cleared off . Trust factor would definitely take time to build again after that incident but still it can be worked on in the best interest of the marital relationship and the future of the children. I would suggest to try the best preserving the nuptial relationship and keeping divorce as the last legal recourse . Hope it helps.
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As per a study done in the US, more than half the relationships (55 percent) ended immediately after a partner admitted to cheating. 30 percent decided to stay together but broke up eventually, and only 15 percent of couples were able to successfully recover from infidelity.
Of course, situation is completely different in India. Had it been you who was cheating, the wife would have been told by everyone, including her own family, to ignore it and live like it never happened. For the sake of your kids, I would also advice the same to you. Go for a couple’s counseling together, for the sake of your kids’ future. An expert will help you both get over this hiccup, and save your marriage.
Your kids might fault themselves for their folks’ separation. Please don’t go for divorce. Please consult a therapist.
I totally agree with Avichal Sinha & Avantika
Separating is the easy way out. Why not try to get to the root of the issue.
What made her go out to another man for physical gratification? Or was the affair an emotional need?
Please consider a therapy for both of you before you decide to make this huge decision
hi friend
how are you doing? did you resolve the matter