Me and hubby have been married for 15 years. Our son was born after many efforts, due to some physical issues with me. Anyhow, as soon as I found I was pregnant, I left my job to be a full-time mom. This caused some financial issues at that time, so my husband had to take up extra projects. This, obviously, led to him getting very little time for our son.
Now, our son has started asking question like, why doesn’t papa play with him like other fathers do in our society? Does his papa not like him? I tried to talk to my husband about this, but he got irritated saying he does not have time to work and be at home, both.
Will this absence of a father cause any problems later with our kid?
You can talk to him about this and if you get a negative response from his side, you can try consulting a counselor. This will help both of you to understand the problems. Your husband will get a clear idea about the problem you are facing. It is important to let him know what is expected from him as a father and the truth is, he has no one to tell him that except you. You will have to communicate with him and help him build a bond with your child. The future of the child gets influenced by the parental relationship. Therefore, you must make sure the child-father relationship is positive.
In order to raise a kid properly, it is necessary for both the parents to participate equally. If you feel like your husband is not taking an active part in raising the child then it is very important to talk to your partner about it. You must let him know that you his help in doing all the work. You can ask him to help by doing easier jobs like helping your child complete his homework. This will help in strengthening the bond between the child and father. Playing with the child will also do the trick. So, what you can do is talk to him