Me and my husband got married almost a year back, but he went abroad immediately after marriage. He has recently come back, and we have started living together. I do everything for my husband to make him feel special, cook his favorite food, let him watch his serials after coming home, give him small gifts. But he doesn’t do anything for me, he doesn’t even acknowledge my efforts. I don’t want to speak to him directly about this, but I feel very bad, what should I do?
I have to agree with Atharv. If you are helping him live the same routine that he went through before you guys got married, then how will he notice the change and more importantly, how will he notice you?
Get more involved with him. Set aside a ‘couple-time’ everyday, it could be the morning tea, the dinner, or a walk after dinner. Make sure that you both leave your mobiles aside, and just concentrate on each other. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Work of that, dear
Answering from a male’s point, I think he still is not used to being married, he is still continuing his bachelor lifestyle, and you are helping him in that very thing!
You have to start showing your presence.
Ask him to take you out on weekends, ask him to bring you flowers while returning from office. Make your own favorite food at times, set the dining table and have a romantic meal. Talk about what you both would like to watch and put those serials / movies.
I am not asking you to become needy or demanding. Just don’t blend in the background for him. Be the better half. All the best