It was three years back I got married to my now husband after dating him for a year. Things were pretty exciting in the beginning. We just could not live without each other for a long time. But, this year, our relationship went through a harder time. We had a major fallout and we are fighting over every small issue every now and then. It appears that he is a totally changed person and I do not know him anymore. I do not want this relationship to come to an end. Is he cheating on me? Is this perfectly normal in a relationship?
It was three years back I got married to my now husband after dating him for a year. Things were pretty exciting in the beginning. We just could not live without each other for a long time. But, this year, our relationship went through a harder time. We had a major fallout and we…
Diksha
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Marriage is a journey dear, not a destination. It is not always a rosy place. A healthy relationship is meant to have its ups and downs. Just because you are having a rough patch, why would you automatically assume that he is cheating? And why would you even think about separating, based on almost nothing? Is your relationship so weak?
Talk, open up and communicate. That’s the only secret behind a happy relationship.
You said you had a major fallout. Did you guys resolve the issue and gave it a closure? Or did you just sweep it under the rug. It sounds that the issue remained unresolved and is now showing its consequences. Please please take a couple’s counselling from a reputed resource. A professional will help you work out your internal issues and help you deal with your own emotions. Life is beautiful, you have a loved partner, do not give up so easy.
It seems to me that the major fallout you are talking about is the problem behind all your issues. I suggest take a vacation in a secluded destination, switch off the phones and the laptops and work out your problems. A frank communication is the key here.