I’m going through a really tough situation right now. How do you move on from a man who only wanted to use you physically? Though I did realise this a long back, but kept flitting in and out of the relationship. Last month, I asked him to accompany me to the company party, and he expressed such disdain over my physical appearance that it completely shook me! I told him to leave then and there.
The problem is, he hasn’t tried to contact me at all since the breakup. It’s been tough to get over everything. I feel miserable, completely shattered. After waiting for a week, I texted him saying that we were more than just a physical connection and that I deserved better. All he replied was ‘You told me to leave, I left. It was your choice and I am following it” That’s how it ended, with no further contact.
I don’t want him back, and I never want to see him again, but these feelings are really getting to me. How can someone be so heartless? Did all those moments we shared mean nothing to him? It hurts that he could just walk away so easily. How do I get over this? Have any of you experienced something like this before? It feels like I’ve been used, and it’s breaking me!
My heart goes out to you dear. But You need to stay strong and remember that it’s perfectly okay to seek professional help when you feel ready. Consulting with a therapist or counselor will help you understand your own emotions and you will learn how to deal with them in a healthy manner
If you’re looking for additional support, I am a coach who specializes in helping individuals navigate through similar situations. Let me know if I can be of any help.
Wishing you all the best on your healing journey.
Dear, can I share an unpopular opinion? It’s important to understand that men often have different ways of expressing love compared to women. Some men may primarily express love through physical intimacy, while struggling with emotional aspects. It’s possible that they may shy away from emotionally expressive women.
Did he never make you feel loved through gestures like giving flowers or planning special meals together? Consider these moments and ask yourself whether you felt genuinely loved or merely used. If you still believe that he was using you, then it’s his loss. Remember, life is too short to remain unhappy.
Don’t let this experience discourage you from seeking genuine love and happiness.
‘Getting over’ has always seemed liked a misleading term to me. I think ‘coming to terms with it’ is more appropriate. You will never be able to forget what he did, or how he made you feel. But you need to accept that this is how it was, and you did the best you had to.
Allow yourself the necessary time to heal. Healing after a loss takes time and there are no quick fixes. The process is slow, finding yourself through the emotions and challenges.
Remember, you’ve already shown immense strength by taking a stand for yourself. Keep the faith and trust that you will not only get through this difficult time but also emerge even stronger. Have patience and be kind to yourself.
How come nobody has addressed the physical shaming yet!
The fact that he made fun of you after sleeping with you makes me so angry. What gives him the right to treat you like this!
Dear, trust me, you have dodged a major bullet. Get up, get ready, go out and ENJOY your newly single status.