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I was a happily married wife since almost 3 years. There was this person in my office team who is always flirting with me. There was as office party sometime back, he started flirting with me as usual. We were all drinking, and I somehow ended up getting together with him. My husband…

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I am a happily married wife since almost 3 years. There was this person in my office team who is always flirting with me. There was as office party sometime back, he started flirting with me as usual. We were all drinking, and I somehow ended up getting together with him. My husband was in US for a one-month project at this time. The colleague and me continued this affair for the entire duration of my husband’s tour. Now, my husband is back, and I am unable to face him out of guilt. I want to tell him about the affair, but am so afraid of the consequences. How can I live with this burden, please guide if I should come clean or not.

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  1. Relationship Advisor Expert Relationship Advisor

    I agree with Vamika .
    it’s good that you realized your mistake and that you want to correct it. Meet up a therapist. Make sure to get into root cause of your infidelity. Is it lack of any sort of excitement in your life? In that case, I’d suggest taking up a new, strenuous physical activity. It will divert your energies.

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  2. Seeker Lost myself trying to please everyone else!

    I personally do not think that telling your husband will do your relationship any good.
    I’d strongly suggest getting in touch with a counsellor / therapist to understand what made you get into this short affair, when you are already in a happy marriage. Maybe then you would not repeat it again, even if such situation arises. Please take care dear.

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  3. This happens often with me, because my husband has a traveling job. The best way to go about this is to help yourself, rather than going to a random person who might not even understand your needs, and might end up making you even more sexually frustrated!
    I would suggest helping yourself with adult toys and some erotic movies. DM me if you want to know some discrete websites that sell these toys.
    What helped even more was video calling my husband when I was doing one of my ‘sessions’. Man, trust me, you do not need anything more!

    Going back to the topic, NO, do not tell your husband about this.

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  4. Seeker

    friend, you have to think about future, not past.

    you made a mistake, you realised it, you righted it.

    so why dig old bones?

    promise yourself that you will not do this again.

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