Ms Anonymous asks – “I am a divorced woman, have been separated since almost 2 years now. I am working with an MNC on a high position, and I like to live a good lifestyle. The thing is men, somehow, seem to think that I am open for casual hook-ups. This has happened with literally every man I have gone with in the last one year. We go out on a date, they find out I am a divorcee, and somehow the entire aura of the date changes. The weird thing is that even divorced men have the same mindset!
Is this a common phenomena that divorced women face, or am I giving out some ‘available’ vibes? I am seriously freaking out!”
This is, most unfortunately, the typical entitled person. I am definitely not saying that all are same. But unfortunately, the majority are.
Reiterating the previous comment, walk out of that date after telling that their mindset is very disappointing and you cannot take this any further.
Meanwhile, please do not doubt yourself. You do not such people in your life. You will definitely find a good partner. Just donβt give up because of these few narrow minded dates.
Peace β
Hi dear, this is the patriarchal mindset of some Indian men. I would advice you to tell them calmly, but clearly that you are disappointed in this belittling mentality and walk out of the date then and there.
No one has the right to hurt your self respect. You are a strong person, who has already gone through a lot. You will get through this too!
Love dear
I have had a lot of separated women tell me this very experience. I agree, it can feel very disrespecting and degrading even.Β
The first thing to tell yourself is that you are not at fault in any way. You have nothing to change about yourself or offer any clarification to anyone. Just steer clear of such low-mentality men.Β
If you ever feel like talking to anyone, do message me, dearΒ