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I have no desire towards my fiance. I love him, but I cannot think of intimacy. I don’t know what I will do after marriage, I dont think I am gay also, as I have never felt anything for any girl too.
Is this normal, I have friends who enjoy s*x so much, they say I will change my mind after my marriage, but I cannot even think of him touching me. What do i do.
Hi dear,
A possibility is there that you are afraid of the unknown and may enjoy it later.
But I would want you to consider the option that you maybe Asexual, because you said that you have not felt ‘any’ sexual desires till now.
Asexuality is more common than you think, though people may not talk about it. As a society, sex is still a very taboo subject for most.
You would need to go to a psychologist to find out if this might be the case.
It is important that you come to terms with this so that it does not hamper your married life.
Yes, many of my asexual clients are in a very happy marital bliss.
This is case with many woman, I have read article in magzine. In India mostly. I will send you article link
https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/love-sex/why-many-indian-women-fail-to-enjoy-sex/articleshow/6237157.cms
Maybe your friend is correct? since you have not intimacy till now, you dont know how to feel . I also was very nervous befor marriage. But my husband was very understanding and took care of me. Now i enjoy a lot. though sometimes, I don;t get satisfy totally. But most of times its wonderful.
I would agree with @meena_aunty here.
Taking professional support will definitely help you long term. You still seem very young, living your entire life with this dilemma may prove too much for any human being.
Lots of love and strength dear.
No answer, but my sympathy with you. I have same problem, I just avoid physical relations with husband, and hope it gets over quickly when we do.
I have also never felt any need for it. But I do love my husband! I love talking to him, being with him, even holding hands & hugging. He’s my best friend. If he needs me for this one thing, then okay.