I am an independent girl from a modern upper-class background. My parents have never ever kept any restrictions on me while growing up. I was always able to wear what I want and go out with our friends, which included boys. I got engaged last month with a guy suggested by my family. You can say it is an approved-arranged set-up. His family has known ours since quite a long time.
The thing is now my prospective husband and his family has started pointing fingers at me. Like I should stop wearing skirts now, or that I should think about quitting my job, etc. I had no idea they were this conservative! What do I do, our entire family and peers know about this engagement, it will surely spoil our family image if we call off the wedding. I am so confused!
I am sure a little spot on “societal image” is not more important for you or your parents than your entire life!
You said you an independent modern girl. Then do what such a girl would do! Stand up for yourself and clear all your issues before getting married.
Peace!
You have to talk to your parents about this dear. You said they’ve always supported you, then why are you feeling apprehensive in approaching them now?
Maybe it’s a simple misunderstanding on your future in-laws’ part. It is important that you and your parents clear out all doubts before getting into a life-long commitment. Please reach out to them and tell them all your apprehensions.Β