I am totally frustrated. My elder brother-in-law had come to visit us last month. He is a divorcee and works from home. So, he has no obligations anywhere else. I thought he will leave in a few days, but it has been more than one month. My husband goes to office, and BIL just sits in the drawing room and keeps watching me do house work, does not say anything, just stares.
We have a full-time maid also, so I am not really worried, physically. But it weirds me out. I don;t even know what to tell to my husband, nothing has happened, per se. I just want him to leave. But he isn’t showing any signs of moving away anytime soon. Hubby is ofcourse happy to have his brother with him, they enjoy a lot in the evenings. What should I do?
Dear, what your brother in law is doing is a form of harassment only! The looks which make another uncomfortable or make them feel unsafe should not be tolerated. You need to tell your husband that you are not comfortable with another man in house. Do not place any direct blame yet. Just tell him about your discomfort. I am sure he will understand the situation and come to a solution.
I agree. Why should you be made to feel uncomfortable within your own home. If bad comes to worse, just go to your parents place and tell your husband you won’t be back till the brother in law goes away.
You do not have to take this sort of harasment
Such a creep! I agree with Shani, tell your husband that you are not comfortable and seek a temporary residence elsewhere. I understand that is not an ideal solution, but this will surely send a clear message to your hubby & his bro.
No one should be allowed to mess with your mental peace. βοΈ
I hope you have already asked him to leave. You should definitely not tolerate if you have a choice. I also have a very sleazy brother in law and even father in law. But i never give any chance to be alone with them. Also, as customary, I am alwasy in ghoontghat in front of male members of family. But it seems your situation is not as bad, you do have a say in this matter. Then please dont tolerate any wrong thing.