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I am ten years older than my wife, She always calls me “budha”. Initially I took it lightly, thought that she is just kidding. But now she has started calling me “budha” in front of her friends which is quite a bit humiliating for me I tried to Stop her but she doesn’t listen to me. Please give me some advice.
I do know how it feels to marry someone so much younger , a friend of mine had the same problem. She herself did not realise that her jests sounded childish, even to her own friends. Though her husband never said anything about it, it was obvious to us that he used to get hurt. I personally had adviced her not to insult her relationship, even as a joke. I remember her husband breaking down in middle of a friend’s party. It wasn’t pretty. But, it seems that outburst opened her eyes to the silent repercussion of her jokes.
You really need to sit down together with your wife, and talk to her seriously. Chances are that she doesn’t even realise that you feel bad. Please make her understand that your feelings are more important than some laughs. DO not let this go for long, else it might result in you getting resentful and bitter.
I think your wife still takes the joke very lightly. Maybe you should try talking to her properly. You should let her know how you feel about it and request her to stop it. Women usually have the habit of joking about almost everything with their friends in form of gossip. My wife used to call me names too when she used to speak about me to her friends. I used to feel humiliated as well. Later I used to go home and tell her that I did not like it. It took time to lose the habit but she did stop it after some time. I think you should talk to your wife about it.