I am much younger to my husband; we have an 8 years gap. Thing is, he has started looking a bit older than me, so much so that people get genuinely surprised when he introduces me as his wife! This seems to have started making my husband feel very insecure about himself. We used to go out every weekend initially, now he hardly takes me out once a month! Also, he has stopped holding my hand in public. I am afraid that this insecurity shall affect our relationship. He is a truly caring and loving husband, I don’t want him to feel this way. How can I help him?
I am much younger to my husband; we have an 8 years gap. Thing is, he has started looking a bit older than me, so much so that people get genuinely surprised when he introduces me as his wife! This seems to have started making my husband feel very insecure about himself. We used to go out every weekend initially, now he hardly takes me out once a month! Also, he has stopped holding my hand in public. I am afraid …
Love doesn’t see age!
Are you sure that this is the only reason your husband is avoiding going out with you?
I mean, have to talked to him about your concerns?
Maybe it’s an entirely different problem. Why don’t you talk to him dear?
I’d suggest reaching out to an Image Consulting Firm.
A one month course will boost his confidence immensely. Have seen this transformation personally. A female friend of mine took a course, and her personality has undergone a huge change! She’s confident, yet soft spoken. Firm, but polite.
It will require a little investment, but the results are worth it,
It is a mental condition where a person has very low self-esteem. A problem like that can impact both of your relationships. To help him, you must make him feel good about himself all the time. Highlight his other qualities frequently. You can use examples from soap operas and show your appreciation to a character he relates with.
Keep telling him how much you love him the way he. He should not compare himself with anybody. You can help him by standing tall and confident when you go out. If he leaves your hand, go ahead and hold his yourself!
– Insecurity is a very common mental issue we all face in our day-to-day lives. It is especially common when we are compared to other people or judged by other people. Insecurity is a problem that has its roots back in childhood days. If you want to help your husband with this issue, you can ask him to consult a psychologist. He will be able to get proper help from a professional person and in the process, he will be able to get a long-term solution. I hope it will get better for him soon and both of you will be able to live happily with each other.
I can relate mam. Even though i recently got married, my wife looks like a teenager in front of me!
I do feel odd when going out with her at times, especially when she holds my hands in public. I feel like I am doing something wrong
I used to feel weird, but now I have accepted it, I just can’t let random people effect my life.
Your husband may feel insecure about his body if he was compared with his peers in his childhood days. It is a very common problem because children often get compared by their friends and parents. There is a high chance that if your husband has a sibling, he was compared his whole childhood. If this is the case, you must try to make him feel good about himself. You must encourage him to do whatever he wants and remind him how precious he is to you. Encouragement and positive vibes are the keys to making him feel better.