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Have you ever been in an extra-marital affair?

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Have you ever been in an extra-marital affair?

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  1. Seeker A Dentist and a Mom

    A colleague of mine is in a supposed “secret” affair with another much junior girl. This man is married, has 2 little children, and tells everyone how much he loves his wife and kids.
    But the fact is that I personally saw them in a cafe nearby, holding hands and whispering in each others ears like teenagers.
    I haven’t confronted him till now, coz its obviously not my place, but it’s really weird .

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  2. Seeker

    I should not be this happy, bu I am. It is going amazingly! I never had any extramarital affairs, so this is my first. I am having the best time of my life with her. I am always on the phone with her, messaging or talking to her day and night. On another day when we had a holiday at work, I was so engrossed in her cute talks that I missed my gym class. I skipped my dinner too because I wanted to enjoy my time with her. I told my wife that I have an important conference and locked myself in our study for 4 hours!
    We go out together every day, in secret though, of course. It feels different. I feel wanted. I have never felt this way before.
    However, I do notice that I am ignoring my wife because of this new expedition. She complains that I am always glued to my phone and not paying attention to her.
    The other day, she kept my phone with her the entire night and did not give it to me even for a second. I was restless. I wanted to talk to my girl. Luckily, I delete our chats instantly, so that there is no chance of anyone finding out. But in such a short time span, we have become so inseparable ( on phone, I should add here). But I love my wife too. I don’t know what to do.

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  3. I unfortunately had a short affair with my single neighbour. The worst thing I could have done.

    It was just as offices were opening after Covid. My husband’s office reopened a lot earlier than mine (6 months almost). So he would go and leave me alone at home all day. I am an introvert, so I dont have many friends. This guy shifted to our adjacent flat, that very day he came to our house to ask for some small thing (sugar, I think). He flirted the very first day, and I, regretably, flirted back . This became a regualr meeting almost every day, as it proceeded to having tea together, eating meals together, and watching movies in afternoons. And after almost 2 months, my husband had to for an overnight trip. That night our affair started.

    I was so guilty the next day, I could not believe what I had done.

    I remained in a mall the entire day to avoid the neighbour. NExt day, my husband came back, and I told him I want to visit my mom. He agreed, and I went to my mom;s place for a month. I avoided the neighbour’s calls & trext completely, till they stoppped coming.

    By the time I had come back, he was gone. I have no idea where or why he went, and I hope to God i never see him again.

    This guilt is always eating me inside, whenever I see my husband. It just wasnt worth it.

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  4. Explainer

    I have an experience just like you @jenny

    Though it was a friend of mine, a stay-at-home wife of a super-rich businessman.

    Apparently, her husband had many girlfriends, my friend had found many pics on his phone , but never dared to confront him.

    And feeling angry, she started an affair with her personal instructer. Its still going on, after 3 months, she has no regrets.

    She will never leave her cheating husband, the husband will never leave her (its a business thing between both families).

    A very surreal feeling whenever she talks to me about all this.

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  5. Seeker

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    Unfortunately I had an affair and separated from my wife because of this ex of mine (Rachna). My beautiful wife refused to give divorce, even when i started living with rachna.

    But within a month, I came to realise my mistake. Rachna neverΒ  took care of me like my wife use to. Rachna would call me tu-tu, whereas my wife would call me aap always. Rachna would pick fight at every small thing, and she would make me spend all my money on going out everyday and buy her expensive things.

    I was a idiot of worst kind to leave my wife. Within a month, my mind was brought back to reality. I left Rachna and went back to my wife ashamed. And she took me back!

    I will never even think of doing such a thing again. My wife was always the best, and she will always be my top priority as long as I live.

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  6. Best Answer
    Relationship Advisor Expert Relationship Advisor

    There are many reasons people go into an extra-marital affair- it’s usually an actual (or sometimes perceived) dissatisfaction from the marriage. It could be mental, physical or even emotional. I sincerely recommend reaching out to a relationship expert if you are having thoughts of having an affair, or are in a affair, or even if you have come out of such a situation.

    Talking with an expert will help you understand the root cause of your distress, and help you manage these thoughts.

    Do connect directly with me and I will guide you to the correct person. Wish you all the best.

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  7. Explainer

    Extra marital affairs are getting so common, it seems we are so interested in being like Americans, we have started adopting their wrong things also. EMA should never acceptable under any circumstance. It’s better to take divorce than break trust of your wife.

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  8. How does anyone get time to do extra marital!
    Between office and commute, I don;t have time for my existing wife also x-(

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