Guys, this is in continuation to my previous query,
So, my cousin is supposed to get married to this guy in a few months – arranged marraige.
he and his family had initially said they require no dowry. Even then my relatives had told them that they will give a car, I-10 to them. Now suddenly they are saying that they want a creta car and they should provide 10 lakh cash as booking amount for a new home the boy will buy after marraige.
My cousin is of course very angry and wants to break off the marriage. But her family is like, we will arrange, this happens, no problem and all.
What should I do now? I am already involved in these matters since the beginning.
I am myself soooo angry.
Hi Ruchita! It’s commendable that you are helping out your cousin, when apparently no-one else in family is listening to her. this is how our society is, a girl’s parents tend to feel an inferiority complex in such a scenario. It’s a shameful reflection of our society but there it is. Please please both of you take a stand against the others who are forcing this marriage. You might end up denting your relationship with a few of them beyond repair. But then, consider the consequences of not retaliating.
As someone had commented in your earlier post, A broken engagement is nothing compared to an abusive marriage.
Lot of courage shall be required on your part, and I wish you the courage to go through this drama. ✌️
Please do not let your cousin enter this business deal. I have unfortunately gone through something similar and I regret every day. I was married off to the supposed best family, my parents gave a hefty dowry, listened to their every demand and insult with folded hands.
And I am treated a little more than a maid in this house. I don;t have any say in fmily matters, noone respects me or my wishes. infact I even have to ask husband before buying anything for myself. Its the worst life for anyone. Just, please help your cousin.
Ruchita, you are one of the most strong women I have come across (even though virtually). You can do this, you can and you should intervene with everything you have. Sorry for what I am about to say, but think how you would feel if the marriage goes ahead and your cousin ends up abused. How would you ever be able to forgive yourself.