A friend of mine has finally left her very abusive relationship. Even though he never physically harmed her, but he was such a narcissist. Poor girl was left with literally no confidence and no friends or life outside marriage, Finally she met another man (a colleague) who has helped her make this decision of leaving her husband.
She is staying with me for a while now, till her divorce gets final. The problem is that she keeps crying that she could not sustain her relationship. i mean, why is she feeling guilty of coming out a relationship with that monster!!!
I am actually feeling angry with her. He treated her like a doormat through 5 years, and now also she is letting him ruin her life.
I just cannot understand this.
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This is not her fault dear. Sometimes we are so used to being dependant on someone, even in a toxic way, that we cannot imagine living without them. It is just the society which has made us believe that as a woman, we have to be strong and not complain, and tolerate every behaviour – from parents to in laws to children to any random stranger.
She will need a lot of time, and I would strongly suggest therapy to get out of this vicious clutch.